It has definitely been heavily debated in our home and challenged both me and my husband to reevaluate our beliefs and expectations. There are countless reasons people choose to spank or not spank. As individuals, we are products of our environment and our experiences. My husband and I were both spanked as kids and we understand that our parents believed it was to teach us discipline and obedience. I get it. Not the most child-friendly approach, but I see what they were trying to do.
When my son was very small, he would not sleep. Many times in order to console him, I would put him in bed with my husband and me. I remember one night in particular I put him in bed with me and when he started to move around and whimper, I got very angry and gave him a slap on his diapered bottom. With the California State Legislature considering a ruling against spanking, I was prompted to take a closer look at the issue of corporal punishment. One survey conducted by Public Agenda, a non-partisan think tank, found many parents are seeking alternative methods to spanking to get their children to behave. Only 34 percent surveyed said they have been successful at teaching their children self-control. Doing so teaches children that the people who love them are the ones most likely to hurt them, that physical force is justified, and that violence is an acceptable way of solving problems.
It is prohibited at Head Start programs and in most juvenile detention facilities , too. But in many states, there is one place where it is permissible to hit, spank or slap: school. Although that number has declined over the years, researchers have found that black students, boys and disabled students continue to be physically punished at a greater rate than their classmates.